About 10 years ago, Superman and I started dating. One night we were sitting on my (well-lit) front porch, talking. Superman had his arm around my shoulder and I was cuddled up to him. I was in a dress that I had owned for a few years and one of my favorites. As we talked, I glanced down at myself and saw "things" that only I was supposed to see. Now, I wasn't surprised to see them, since I had seen them when I got myself dressed. I was surprised to realize that from Superman's spot right next to me, he had quite a view of the girls.
I was mortified. As soon as I realized the predicament I had put him in, I jumped up. I told him it was probably time for him to go and ran inside. I don't think we even hugged good-bye.
I felt so guilty. Superman and I had often talked in our relationship about him serving a mission. We were always focused on that and didn't want to do anything to jeopardize him going. Honestly, we were hesitant to start dating for that very reason, but the pull between us was just too strong.
Anyway..........I felt so very, very guilty. I couldn't believe the awkward situation I had put him in. And I was embarrassed. What must he have thought of me? The little floozy.
The next time I wore that dress, I had a tank top to go under it. I wasn't about to put myself or Superman in that situation again.
The next time I wore that dress, I had a tank top under it. When Superman saw me, he told me I looked really nice. (Good boyfriend.) As we were in the car that evening, he thanked me for wearing a tank top under the dress. He said that he had been really uncomfortable the last time, but didn't know what to say or do about it. I told him that I hadn't realized what I had done and I felt really bad. It wouldn't happen again.
A few months later at EFY, my male counselor talked to the girls about modesty. He said that guys (at least the good ones) really appreciated us dressing modestly. He said that one day, a guy might even thank us for it. I told the counselor that I'd already had a guy thank me for it, and I knew it was important for girls to cover up a bit.
Have you had any significant experiences with modesty? What do you (or what would you) do about little girls and modesty? Do you have a problem with tank tops or bikinis/tankinis on little girls? Do you have teenagers or work with the youth? Thoughts on modesty in general?